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Good manners are very important in the communication of daily life. Everyone likes a person with good manners. But what are good manners? How does one know what should do and what should not do when trying to be a good -mannered person?
Well, here are some common examples. A person with good manners never laughs at a people in trouble. Instead, he (she) always tries to consult or offer help to the person. When he (she) takes a bus and sees an old man or a sick man, he (she) always gives his (her) seat to him. He doesn't interrupt other people when they are talking. He uses a handkerchief when he sneezes or coughs. He does not spite in public places.
Ideas of what are good manners are not always the same in different regions. For example, people in Western countries usually kiss each other to show their greetings, whereas in China, kissing in public is something of unusual and sometimes be regarded as impolite to somebody else. So it is important to know what is regarded as polite and impolite before you go to a region. But remember that it is always right to be kind and helpful to others.

Good manners are a very important key to child's social success, but no child is born with good manners. Teaching them is a parents responsibility.
Beyond teaching "please" and "thank you" many parents aren't sure how to teach their child good manners. Teaching a child what behavior is expected is a daily process, and you'll have many opportunities each day to nudge your child in the right direction. Keep these points in mind:

Teach, don't reprimand.
It's easy to assume that child is purposely using bad manners, when in fact, he just needs a lesson or two. Be specific when you teach child, and remember that many follow-up lessons will be necessary. So instead of saying, "Don't be so rude!" you can respond this way, "It's impolite to belch at the table, but if you do, it's proper to say 'excuse me'."
Whether you are planning a visit to a friend's home, a night out at the movies or dinner at a restaurant, take time before you go to coach your child on the behavior you expect. Review the "rules" of good manners and you'll more likely experience a pleasant time.

帮你找了两篇关于Good manners 的文章,供你参考.

1.Good manners are good for business
The Business Journal of Phoenix - January 26, 2001by Eileen Brill WagnerThe Business Journal
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Despite what many people believe -- or the behavior they exhibit -- there still are those who believe business etiquette is something that never goes out of style.

In fact, in a study conducted by etiquette consultants Eticon Inc., 80 percent of the respondents reported an increase of rudeness in business.

When they encounter rudeness, 58 percent of the people surveyed said they will take their business elsewhere.

"Rude behavior ruins business," said Ann Humphries, Eticon president.

"Good manners and civility is not a `soft skill' relegated to the `nice but not necessary' category," continued Humphries, "but rather it becomes a fundamental strategy in a business's ability to perform, compete and profit."

Etiquette does not just apply to the business as a whole, but all of the people that make up the company. It also comprises more than good manners -- it is the overall behavior, attitude and grooming.

This is particularly true when people are meeting you for the first time. Ever hear the adage "you never get a second chance to make a first impression?" How about "the first impression is the lasting one?"

Studies have shown that 55 percent of how you are judged is based on your appearance, 7 percent on the words you use and 35 percent on your tone of voice.

Here are some "first impression" tips from Lydia Ramsey, author of "Manners That Sell: Adding the Polish That Builds Profits":

Remember that you are always on stage. At any given moment you may encounter that sought-after client or potential employer. Always be prepared to look and sound your best.

2Good manners are the first mark of good breeding and reflect directly on a person’s upbringing.
I have been given a very simple criterion for judging manners – good manners are based on consideration for other people. Tact, diplomacy and hospitality – all these are based on good manners.
For instance, take table manners. You are not supposed to put your elbows on the table while eating because it doesn’t allow enough space for the person who is sitting next to you. Similarly, it is important for you to respond to someone who wishes you ‘good morning’ or says ‘namaste’, even if it a stranger. If you do not return the greeting, the stranger will feel insulted and will not greet others easily again.
For parents and teachers, there is one simple norm – do not tolerate bad manners. Give incentives and affection in return for good manners. But do not expect too much too soon. Children will learn by and by, but it is no point expecting a three year old to know about butter knives and a finger bowl.

There are some simple guidelines to follow actually, though there are cultural differences to take into consideration. What is rude in Japan may be perfectly acceptable in Latin America. However, you will be forgiven for not knowing the rules of an alien culture. You will not be excused for being careless in your own country. In any case, always remember the principle of not making others uncomfortable.

If you are in a mixed group, always greet the elders and the women first.
Don’t shout to be heard. Don’t interrupt others while they’re talking.
Don’t address elders and seniors by their names, unless they have specially asked you to, in India at any rate. Try ‘Sir/ Ma’am’ for strangers and ‘Uncle/ Aunty’ (or Chachaji, Mausiji etc) for familiar people. For a stranger who is not so old, it is better to suffix the name with ‘ji’, as a mark of respect.
Stand up when an elder or a guest enters the room and don’t sit until you’ve offered them a seat.
Offer a glass of water (and preferably a cup of tea) to anyone who steps into your home/ office.
Do not continue to watch TV or surf the net when you have a visitor.
Stand when the national anthem (of any country) is playing. Show respect to all flags and all religious symbols.
Lower the music or TV volume when others are talking or trying to sleep.
Do not ask too many intimate or invasive questions the first few times that you meet a person.
Do not comment on personal appearances or clothes in a negative way; if you cannot say something complimentary, do not say anything at all.

In Indian homes, always take off your shoes/sandals before entering a room, or in one corner near the door. At least, wait for your host to tell you that you need not bother.

Table manners
There are some basic rules like –
Wash your hands before and after a meal;
Ask for whatever you want instead of reaching out directly or pointing at dishes;
Don’t make too much noise; don’t talk with food in your mouth;
Preferably eat with your right hand (unless you are a leftie and cannot);
Wait until everyone else is sitting down before starting to eat;
Help clear the dishes;
Don’t read while eating;
Don’t talk on your cell phone during the meal and if you must get up in-between, ask to be excused.